Jobs

Everyone at some point in their lives has to get a job, most of the time it starts when you are a teenager. When you’re looking for your first job, trying to find something, but then something you like. When I turned sixteen I started looking for a job around where I lived, so there were not very many options. I applied to about everywhere, looking for something, anything, basically to get a car. What teenager does not want a car to go out with friends and have it to drive around. After trying for about 5 months or so, I eventually talked to someone, and got an interview. After that I go the job and am now working every weekend. If you keep trying for a job you will eventually get one, you just have to keep at it apply everywhere, that will help you get one faster. If you have a job you know what I am talking about trying to get one. Also if you have one you know that sometimes it is hard to work with other coworkers and some of the rudely customers, but the customers ‘always right’. When applying for your first job you want to put a lot of your school activities you do and if any school offices. This will boost your resume in order to further your application to help you get the job. You want to boost everything, put as much information on there as you possibly can. Most applications have to be done online, if you do not have internet you will have to find some place that does. When applying I would not just apply at any place, unless you do not care where you work, but some place you would enjoy doing and have fun while doing. Another thing to consider is applying somewhere one of your friend works, when you start it should be easier because if you have a question you can ask them. Or maybe they can help you get the job, give you a good recommendation, only if they actually do their work do you want their recommendation, because if they do not then the employer may think you are also like that. Even though you may not be, you still do not want something bad against you, taking your chances down even more. Once you get the job show that you deserved it. You want to show that they did not hire you for nothing; you do not want to get fired within the first thirty days of working. All I can say is try you’re hardest if you do not get anywhere go talk to a manager of that place tell them that you really need a job. You can say that you have been trying really hard to get one. Maybe that will help you get it and then you are in. That is it for my job advice. You will have to check back next week for more of my blog.

High parental expectation

Everyone at some point in their life deals with this and may not express it and deal with it. All parents have this for their kids they want them to grow up and be and act just like them, but kids do not want that they want to be their own person, make mistakes and fix them the way they know best. Everyone needs this in their life they need to mess up, it is the way of life that is how it works, and will continue you to do this until the end of time. Then you have those other parents who don’t expect anything out of you and think you are not going to become anything in life. You also have those of you who have siblings and you are supposed to live up the same standards they have or to be better than them. For some that is just too much, that can then lead to stress and depression that I wrote about last week. Parents should be supportive of their kids want them to succeed in life, but be who they are and not what someone wants them to be. Everyone is unique in their own way and wants to do their own thing in life. Everyone needs to make mistakes to have their life be theirs. Do your parents expect you to do something, but you don’t want to, but you have to make them happy. Or you want to do this and they don’t approve, because of who they are or were at that age. Then you have parents that play the card, well I did not do that as a kid, so you can’t. You have to remember what century it is and how far this world has evolved over the years. You are allowed to do more these days that kids did not do back then, that’s how it is and parents need to realize that. If you are one of those parents that do not care what happens to your kid then why did you have kids. have kids because you are ready for them, ready to be there when they need you, love them, expect them to be who they are, let them be free. If they make a mistake then guide them through it and make sure they do get through it without anything happening to them.  When you are expected of too much then you just give up stop trying and then you think they are done caring now that they know you do not have it in you, but you do push through all the parental judgment and make your life the way you want it to end up. Express yourself and let others know what you want to do in life and what you want to achieve, don’t let your parents hold you back on your dreams. Continue reading my blogs and seeing what is going on in the teen world. Check back next week.

Depression

Depression is another thing that teens deal with; there are even adults that have to deal with this to. Depression would be hard for anyone to deal with, but it can be prevented. I talked about challenge day last week and I don’t want to say something to someone to make them feel depressed and after that journey everyone should help everyone get through the hard times in life, without someone going into depression. How is depression really defined? Is it when your sad or is it when your down all the time and don’t care what happens, because I’m not really sure what the definition of it would be, but if I can help someone with it then I would love to do that. Depression is something that should be prevented at such a young age, when you think of depression, I would think of an older person in maybe their 40’s or 50’s and not someone who is 15 through 18. A definition of depression would be a mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and despondent lack of activity.  This basically means that when you are depressed you are mentally down on yourself and you have no hope for yourself. Everyone should have hope for themselves; everyone has potential in life and was created for some type of goo d in their life. You may not think that but you do have something in life to live for, don’t doubt it, just continue with your life and have someone help you power through when you really need. I’d say depression is a number one factor in suicides and to think that all of that could be prevented with just 2 minutes of your time. Talking and listening, just listening can help someone through a lot. Parents, coming from a teen myself, talk to your kids, all they want to know is that someone cares about them and wants to spend time with them. All you have to do is open up and it will go a long way. Depression should be helped without pills, it should be helped with talking, and talking can help with so many things. pills should not be the first place to go when something happens in your life, think about what they actually do to your body, but if they are desperately need then go ahead, but if not try to avoid taking them for your own good. Depression should be handled like any other illness that someone has. It can be fixed with time and with the right help. Get friends and family and have a big therapy session with everyone and tell them what you’re feeling and just maybe someone can help you with your depression and make your life better for yourself. I haven’t seen depression first hand, but I can only imagine that it can be rough, dealing with it, especially if you are on your own with no help. Check back next week for more blogging.

Challenge day

This week’s blog will be in inspiration of challenge day that we recently had at our high school. Challenge day relates to my topic of writing because of the bullying and everything else we have discussed. Some of you are probably thinking what challenge day is, we had three days with one hundred kids per day, to change the lives of 300 lives and pass it on to everyone else. you go right when you get to school to the gym is where we had ours, they begin with games to loosen the crowd up, and also with DANCING, who does not like dancing and music, music itself is really inspiring to all. With the games they have a sly way of changing it around to where people are getting to know you without you actually talking to a big group of people. After all these games have loosened you up you’ll then go to small families. These will be who you talk to for the day.  The small families consisted of 6 or 7 people, but with a bigger high school they may have been bigger. In these families you share your story; you say things that if they really knew you they’d know this. It gets emotional after a while and you find out how little you actually know about someone. When everyone first heard about this they were like this going to be stupid and I don’t wanna do this. You get maybe two breaks over the whole course of this. Then you have lunch, after lunch we go back to having more emotional talks. Then what happens closer to the end is the line. The line is the most intense part of the day. They have a line and if this has ever happened to you cross the line. When all these people cross the line you start thinking about how wrong you were to judge them, even your friends cross the line and you’re like wow really, and you’re so surprised they are crossing the line. It is so emotional for everyone. Then towards the end you write a letter, then there’s time to read those or to make apologies to anyone in there that you have hurt. They give you a microphone to do this and you’re like do I really want to do this and if not then there’s time after everyone who wanted to share shares to go around and apologize in private to whoever you have hurt. It shows how words really hurt and all that someone needs is someone to listen and care about them, just two minutes is all it takes. I recommend talking to someone that you’ve never talked to before and see if they need someone to listen. All in all it was one of the best days of my schooling that I have truly enjoyed and never thought it would actually be that good. Everyone deserves a second chance a chance to be a kid and have that freedom; everyone deserves some type of love. If you ever need to talk to me even if I don’t know you comment on my blog and we can go from there may be a text or a phone call, I am never too busy to help out someone who needs it.

Teen Pregnancy

Another issue that some teens deal with is teen pregnancy. Teenage pregnancy raised 3 percent by 2006 and I am sure has raised more as the years go on. Kids in this age are getting pregnant younger and younger as the years go on. It will continue at an increasing rate if nothing is done about what is happening with the kids of America now. teens we all know we don’t want our parents involved, but on the other hand a lot of kids need to have their parents involved. When they are not then pregnancies and other things will happen to us. Pregnancy is a rising thing for a lot of teens. Some teens resort to abortion, adoption, and then some choose to keep their kid. When having a baby it puts a lot of stress that I talked about in my earlier blogs. There’s stress, financial stability, and schooling. Who can keep up with all that and not be overworked, especially if you grew up very poor and don’t have any money to raise a baby. Another issue would be the baby’s father if you were the girl in that relationship and it could go the other way if you were the guy you could have no rights to see your kid at all. Having a kid when you are still a kid yourself is her and it should be more widely prevented. Parents need to be in their kids’ lives, helping them with the love and support they need, especially when it comes to “love”. Really what is that when you’re 16 or 17 even 15 year olds, you do not know what it is? to you its every guy or girl your with, you don’t even know the difference, then you have a kid and one of them maybe walks away from the situation instead of accepting it and moving on with a positive attitude about it. Everyone should use some kind of protection, whatever it may be it needs to happen for the next generation. Parents are getting younger and more immature. Teen Moms is a great way of showing that. In one of the episodes, there’s a girl who had twins at the age of 16 and then at the age of 19 with another guy no mind you is having another kid and getting married. She needed to think about the two kids she already had and then figure out what was best for her life and then find someone to spend her life with, considering she’s only 19. Then on another one her mother is raising her kid because she was too young to have one. She has raised him for over 3 years and she needed to grow up and take care of him. If you’re old enough to do it is old enough to take responsibility to take care of YOUR kid no one else’s. Parents be a better communicator with your kid and be there when they need you, not when it’s too late.